Home Is Where Your Throne Is
By Courtney Mina
Home is where the heart is. It’s where you grow up from a child into a young woman. It’s the first place where you found your own personal independence. It’s where you surround yourself with your favourite things. It’s where you binge-watch Netflix with your pet sleeping happily at your feet. It’s where you hang out with all your crazy (yet amazing) family and friends. It’s where you snuggle into your warm, comfy bed and rest your head at night. Home is where we spend most of our time, and it’s where you can be totally and uncompromisingly yourself.
When I was growing up, it was ingrained in me that leading a “proper” lifestyle at home meant always being neat and tidy, keeping clean, dressing modestly, and eating to be thin (rather than simply eating to be healthy). I may have got the “neat, tidy, and clean” part down (although my bedroom could be described as “organized clutter”), but as for the rest, well… I have never truly been one to follow the rules very well, especially when I think they’re (quite frankly) B.S.
As plus size women we’ve always been taught to cover ourselves up, hide our bodies away beneath clothing, and to dress modestly. We’ve been taught that we should eat food and prepare meals at home that are going to keep us thin (or make us thin) rather than eating food to keep us healthy and happy. We compromise ourselves constantly by trying to follow these expectations, and I have to say ladies: enough is enough.
Home is where the heart is, sure – but it’s also where our minds and bodies live, and they need just as much love and attention as our hearts. Your home is your castle, and baby you are the queen.
So make sure you strut around your castle like the fierce and fabulous woman you are. Want to walk around wearing sexy underwear or lingerie? Do it. Want to walk around wearing a fabulous outfit you just pieced together? Girl YAS. Want to walk around wearing absolutely nothing like the goddess you are? Girl get it.
And while you’re at it, make sure you eat to sustain your health (rather than your waistline) and that you remember to throw in some delicious indulgences when your heart so desires. Food is your friend, not your enemy. It’s there to nourish us, sustain us, and let’s not forget – to pleasure us. And there is nothing wrong with enjoying life’s profound pleasures.
We have to stop trying to compromise our desires and happiness to be the woman we think we should be, rather than the woman we want to be. Home is the first place where you should live your life as an uncompromising woman: it’s your space, your world, your life. And no one can tell you how to live your life happily, healthy and fabulously except for you.
Home is where the throne is, and girl, you wear the crown.